As this year has blossoms, ask yourself, what have you done to make yourself better then the year before. By now month has gone by very quickly, what have you done that you are most proud of? Have you attempted at any of the ‘New Years Resolutions’ yet? Have you began to dissect how you’re going to tackle the remainder of the days left in the year. Most importantly, why or why not?
I think this is the year we all stop living for others and live for yourself. Create something or be someone that you can be proud of. Don’t fall short of peer pressure or compare your life to the snapshots on social media of people ‘living it up’. Do you!
Be a boss!
Don’t give up!
It’s your life, live it according to you!
If you have been following my blog from the start you may notice that I am still finding my way around the world of blogging, (I’m taking suggestions). I have a lot to say and when it’s all scattered in my brain, I just have to finally let it out. As I pick back up this year from where I left off, I hope to continue to expand my imagination, bringing this blog to life as it is my passion and my most beloved hobby.
I am going to focus primarily on health, eldercare, and lifestyle topics. Even though sometimes I may insert some personal stories, I hope you still find my contents inspiring, motivating, and easy to comprehend.
I’ve heard it is said often that it’s not about where you come from but where you are going. That is true. Must we not forget that our pass influences our future. In order to create a positive future we must deal with the pass in the present.
Be mindful of your pass.
Don’t forget where you come from. Instead, seek to understand of the things that happened in your pass and learn ways to forgive and move on from the painful memories or unpleasantries.
The difference between a survivor and a victim is how the situations are handled. (If you disagree, share your thoughts in the comment box).
A Survivor is a person who copes well with difficulties in their life.
A Victim is a person who has come to feel hopeless and passive in the face of misfortune or ill treatment.
To decide how you will be in the future, you must be mindful of the things in your pass that would determine your behavior as a Survivor or Victim.
If you can look at your future and accept the things of your pass, you are ready to make important decisions in life to secure happiness, joy, comfort, and balance. You’re on your way to a healthier lifestyle.
Throughout the years I’ve met some awesome people, particularly through my job. One of my patients today asked me, “what do you want in life?”
I was speechless for a few seconds. I certainly was not expecting such a question in the middle of one of the busiest days I’ve had this week.
After a few seconds on pondering the question, I answered with a question. “In what way do you want me to answer that?”
We both laughed.
Then I replied will full honesty.
I got home, relaxed and it came to me. . . I want happiness. . . But at which point will I say that I’ve reached optimum happiness. Now that I’ve had time to reflect on the question, that was definitely just half of the answer. Happiness can include several different factors throughout the different stages of life that contribute to our happiness as beings. We will have moments of ups and downs but always looking to be happy.
What will make me feel complete? Is how I should have thought about the question. I have two days to think of this new question and when I get back to work, I will share my new answer with my patient .
Have you ever been asked such questions? What would make you complete? When does someone really reach Happiness? What are the terms in which live life now? What plans do you have for your future?
It is to fully open your heart and accept the challenges you have faced and be grateful of the outcome. Through every trials there is a lesson to grasp. Normally around Thanksgiving we share the people in our lives we are grateful for. This year I challenge you to think of which situation you’ve experience this year that you are most grateful for.
I’m most grateful for the people that has walked out of my life, actually. I learned a great deal from them and they have help me to be strong on my own.
Through every situation we must seek to understand it’s underlying purpose. I suggest that you, dear reader, do not dwell on the past and live with regrets but indulge in the spirit of forgiveness and keep moving forward.
With all due respect…
Although not necessary to include in the beginning of each sentence, it is important to keep in mind. Anyone older then you deserve respect, honesty, truth, and fairness. When communicating with your parent whether some senses have become impaired, a barrier has been identified such as increase confusion, or they are living long distance. Keep an open door policy just as they did with you when you were growing up. Now that you are responsible for many aspects of their lives they still want to be heard and psychological needs still needing to be met.
Be patient… Don’t rush them. A lot of elders become hearing impaired or have specific speech impairments that affects the way they communicate. Its not by their choice.
Be attentive… Don’t dismiss what they are saying. Even if you think they might be bending the true, still listen. It makes them feel like someone actually care about them. If you can sympathize show empathy.
Be respectful… Honor their wishes to the best of your abilities. It will bring fourth satisfaction later.
Be fair… You may not have all hours of a day to spend with your elderly mother or father but one phone call would add such a warm smile on his/her face. Take a few minutes to take a walk with him/her outside. A lot of disabled adults spend hours inside their home or facility sometimes they yearn for a chance to see and feel some sunlight. I once had a patient who said to me “these walls just do something you my brain”. It broke my heart.
Think about the changes you could began to see if you just change one those those things listed above.
Make a difference. Make a small change today. It will have bigger rewards later.
A friend of mind said “my dad had a lot of tests done and he came home with the results unsure of what to do with them or how to read them. How many people go through that with their parents?”
My answer is A LOT.
A routine doctor’s visit for an elderly patient is different then a usual physical or office visit. Many are on multiple medications which require regular testing and blood work. An adult child taking care of or who is responsible for an elderly parent does not have to be consumed with all the results of the test but should grasp an understanding of what tests are needing to be done, why and how often. Keeping a schedule of medications, appointments, procedures, lab work, and diagnostics is very important. Organization is key.
Also having an open communication method with the Physician or Prescriber is just as important. Your parent might have received a copy of the test results but did they understand the findings of the test? What changes are going to happen according to those results?
It could be a slight adjustment of one medication or the complete discontinuation of another medication. Because the elderly often have complicated health problems the Prescriber could have them taking many medications and sometimes they can interact. Communicating with your Prescriber at a timely manner is key. It’s a lot of number to keep up with if you are trying to become an expert at keeping up with test results.
Here are some common testings that the elderly usually have to get done sometime along the way and the normal and abnormal values…
If it becomes a task which you struggle to maintain, seek help from another professional such as a Home Health Care Agency in your community or a Case Manager. They can be the in between person and accepting their services could be already covered by your insurance provider and eliminate the headache of having to sort through all the paper work.
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I just thought to share in this post that with the ongoing hurricane season and brewing hurricanes in the Atlantic Ocean, there are family members out there that are worried sick about their love ones. There are ways to prepare for this. Take a look at the items listed below to help you pack accordingly.
To those that are worried about family members in the Nursing Homes, Hospitals, and Rehabs… Rest assured that many of those places are also used as shelters because of safety guidelines they have had to upheld. They also have more resources to help those in need. A lot of staff will be required to stay and work until the storm has cleared. Rest assured that if things get out of hand, emergency personnel will rescue those in need through triage. If you take care of a love one at home call a nursing home in your area that may accept Respite Patients. They will keep your family member and care for them for a few days at a time and bill the insurance company. It will give you peace of mind. If you are not sure that this is the right choice for you, send me in email and I will be able to help you find resources in your area or connect you to a Case Manager that can help.
My advice is to take care of those at your home first, be sure to find a safe shelter before the storm if your home may be in danger. Allow trained medical staff to care for your loved one to the best of their abilities.
Here’s a list of things you need to have on hand to prepare for the hurricane season:
Remember to print hard copy of any documents you need – instructions, tips or anything in case you have no power.
- Water – at least 1 gallon daily per person for 7 to 10 days. Don’t forget some for your pets.
- Food – at least enough for 3 to 7 days
— non-perishable packaged or canned food / juices
— foods for infants or the elderly
— snack foods (Peanut butter; mixed PBJ; breakfast bars; crackers; canned fruit; raisins; chips;
— non-electric can opener
— cooking tools / fuel
— paper plates / plastic utensils / paper cups — trash bags and duct tape – useful for clean-up, or patching leaks in an emergency
- Blankets / Pillows, etc.
- Clothing – seasonal / rain gear/ sturdy shoes
- First Aid Kit / Medicines / Prescription Drugs
- Special Items – for babies and the elderly (Briefs, diapers, Wipes)
- Toiletries / Hygiene items / Moisture wipes
- Bug spray, Cortisone for bug bites
- Sunscreen & Lotion
- Tarp to cover holes if needed.
- Water purification tablets
- Waterless soap saves water for drinking
- Flashlight / Batteries
- Radio – Battery operated
- Battery operated television, with extra batteries.
- Extra battery adapter for your phone
- Cash – Banks and ATMs may not be open or available for extended periods. Make sure you have small bills because it will often be difficult to get change, I you only have a $100 and water is $10 for a case and you are limited to one case, you do not want to have the choice of paying $100 or having no water.
- Keys to house, cars, boats etc
- Toys, Books and Games
- Important documents – in a waterproof container or watertight resealable plastic bag
— insurance, medical records, bank account numbers, Social Security card, etc. Don’t forget your re-entry documents (e.g. stickers or passes). Many barrier islands require some documentation in order to return. Keep important phone number here. You may know them, but a loved one may not.
- Tools – keep a set with you during the storm. A pocket knife, nails, a hammer and rope are important elements. Towels and buckets are useful too if you develop a leak.
- Vehicle fuel tanks filled
- Pet care items
— proper identification / immunization records / medications
— ample supply of food and water
— a carrier or cage
— muzzle and leash
If you think of anything else to add to the list, please add it in the comment box. Do Share this with your friends and family to create awareness. You could save a life!
Prior to becoming a Nurse, I wanted to be a Pharmacist. I did not have a guide or even an older sibling to warn me about the experiences ahead. I just figured things will just fall in place by the Grace of God. Oh did they!?! I began to struggle financially which put me in a position to get a job as a CNA. Though I really did not have a desire to work as a CNA , I went to a Technical High school, it was one of the many skills I acquired.
My first job was with an Agency. . .
I would drive to a clients home and did things from cooking small meals, go for a walk, take them grocery shopping, etc. I learned what it means to be humble. The money was not big but it was more then I had before. I still struggled because the hours were not always guaranteed.
I applied for a job at a Nursing Home. . .
I had enough experience with clients by then to feel comfortable doing patient care. I mastered the art of selflessness. I begin to put people’s needs first before mines. I was no longer the same selfish person. I started enjoying what I was doing. When a patient says thank you, it made me want to do more. Of course there have been countless number of patients that were rude and said mean things, but they were also Alzheimer and Dementia patients. I learned to let things go quicker. (Look out for the post when I tell you how a patient bit me on my breast.) Coming Soon….
I found Private Duty jobs. . .
The real adventures begun when I met private cases. I learned so much life lessons from them. From the guy that told me that selling my paid-off Mitsubishi Galant to finance an old Jeep Liberty was the stupidest thing I could have ever done (He was right), to the Super rich guy dying but called the flower shop everyday to deliver roses to his wife. (Super Romantic). I have been blessed by so many precious memories that I could not see myself doing anything else after that.
I went to school and became a Nurse. . .
Best decision of my life! I get to deliver so much more to my patients and make a greater impact. I get to help family members navigate through their parent’s care. I am there for them and with them and I would not want to be anywhere else.
I chose to continue my education. . .
To help the Geriatric population not only because they have had such a great impact in my life because they deserve the best care after giving off so many years to this world. We are a product of their hard work. We are here because they worked hard and gave us something to live for. They hold the key to a lot of success stories, romantic adventures, funny moments, mistakes to learn from, and wisdom. Why not encourage them to let you in on their secrets. Be a blessing to them.
That’s Why I Chose To Be A Nurse.